Chitra Kalyani is a single woman who currently resides in New Delhi, a city she painstakingly explores and writes about. She previously studied and lived in Egypt. A freelance journalist, this Dilli Ki Billi is the founder of Delhi Live Events Guide. Currently, she holds the position of relationship manager at a Yoga studio and researches on mental illnesses.
What are your views on feminism?
I’m not sure I understand the question. If this is about whether or not I opt to be called a feminist – of course I’m for equal rights. Everyone should have one view of feminism: to support it.
If there was a code of conduct for women (like the bro code) what according to you should be the rules?
The bro code usually has to do with how the game changes when women are around. I think a “sister” code would be for us to be supportive and encouraging of each other’s efforts, and to give guidance that is clear – including tough love. But at the foundation, to always give from a place of love.
Tell me about one woman who has inspired you ?
My English teachers have always been inspiring – probably why I ended up choosing to study the subject. They were perfectionists when it came to things like spelling, grammar, essay structure – their work; but when it came to an attitude towards you, I found them gentle. Without that, a genuine interest in literature and arts could not exist. I had at least two female English teachers in high school.
The Feminine Code by Chitra Kalyani
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Tripti Singh is a young, introverted student of Fashion Styling at PAF.
Feminism is the soul of a lady. A mother, a sister, a teacher who have great stamina to defeat in battle, as well as to inspire for good reasons. A woman has the feature to make anyone’s beautiful just instead of it she wants respect and love!
The set of rules which I will make for woman is just to let her live freely without
showing any kind of partiality. The second rule is that there should be no rules.
A woman who has inspired me is Kalpana Chawla. I admire her for her talent, courage as well as for her dedication to her work. She inspired me while she was alive and even when she’s no more.
The Feminine Code By Tripti Singh
© Photo and text-Tripti Singh.
Imrita Chhabra is a senior visualiser at Talenthouse. Born and brought up in Jammu, she currently resides in Mumbai.
What are your views on feminism?
Feminism seems to carry such mixed sentiments. If you are labelled feminist you are considered anti-men. I don’t hate men or want to make them my slave. I believe in equal rights for men and women. If this is how you define feminism, I am a feminist. If it’s only about women then I’m not a feminist. I feel both men and women face inequality. It just depends on which side of the spectrum you are. In fact we need to fight for equality for everyone whether you are a MAN or a WOMAN. I have seen women playing feminism card as per their convenience. When it comes to paying bills or spending their salary on things other than the personal expenditure, Oh it’s my husband’s responsibility to take care of it. After all he is the man of the house, why should I pay for it? But yeah when it comes to household chores my husband should help equally. Why because we are equal. Really ??? I pity the guy here, He is the victim here. On the other hand I have seen men who are jerks, have no respect for women whatsoever. There are women who are not allowed to work even though they are more qualified than their husbands because it’s their duty to take care of kids and do the household work. Some of them are not allowed to talk to any male members of the family, keep their face covered all the time. That’s the kind of women we need to fight for. Here again the women faces injustice not only from the men but also from the women. So who do be blame here? So let’s make this year a FEMINISM A FIGHT FOR THE RIGHTS OF ALL GENDERS.
If there was a code of conduct for women what according to you should be the rules?
I feel people around us already have so many expectations and rules for us that we don’t need more. I want all women to forget all the rules, be compassionate, be classy, love yourself and follow your dreams. Don’t just LIVE be ALIVE.
Tell me about one woman who has inspired you?
Many women have inspired me not just one. Some for their courage, some for their talent and some for their attitude. But one woman who has inspired me the most is my MOTHER. I admire her for her patience, selfless love and courage. She has been my friend, my pillar of strength. Sometimes she just amazes me and I wish I could be half the women she is.
Avleen Khokhar, wears many hats. She is a well reputed cosmetologist, mind therapist and spiritual counselor. Avleen, has been the recipient of many awards. A few months back she received a Woman of Substance Award in the field of Art and Beauty.
A woman is nurturer and man is provider. A woman must always remember her basic nature to nurture what ever she does. Her work, her family, her surroundings must be nurtured and embraced. Feminism is not to be validated or acknowledged. Feminism is grace, love and softness.
Every woman must learn to love herself first . If you love yourself, people will love you for sure. If the woman of house is happy she can distribute happiness. Every woman must pamper herself. I feel equality is not the virtue or point of conflict. The real thought must be understood. Mother nature has made a woman a nurturer and she can only make a healthy and peaceful surroundings. So love your self, believe in yourself and nurture yourself and surroundings around you.
I am inspired by my mom. I have see her always smiling and boosting us in all situations. I have never seen her giving up. She has a solution for everything and she is a strong foundation of the house. I am inspired by the way she loves herself. We are three sisters with different set of surroundings. Initially, we all had problems to adjust in our new extended families. My mom use to counsel us in positive direction and now we all are successfully settled in our universe and enjoying love and respect.
Feminine Code by Avleen Khokhar